For the last few years we have been getting our glasses from Market Optical at the University Village. HWMBO needed new frames before the benefits reset at the turn of the year so we went down on Sunday to get him sorted out.
I like visiting the MO at U-Village. It allows you to try on different frames that let you envision and re-invent yourself. Getting different glasses, whether they are super-hip and groovy or ultra professional, helps you realize that your calcified idea of who you are and how others see you isn't as fixed as one might think.
It's unlikely that I would ever have picked the frames I wear now to try on. That's what I rely on the people at MO to do - to be un-blinkered by who I am and instead see who I might be.
It was Dan who convinced me to try them. Dan wasn't working last Sunday when we went in. As HWMBO tried on this and that frame, finding it hard to settle on anything definite, I tried on a few frames that were totally wrong for me and tried to find a place to be out of the way as the store got busy.
I was standing in the small well of quiet near the desk when I saw the framed photo. I blinked and began to shake my head and then stopped, as I saw Dan's smiling face with the legend "Our Beloved Dan" above two dates - May 29th, 1980 and May 30th, 2007.
We didn't know Dan that well, perhaps to him we were just some guys who came in a couple of times a year. Yet, we remembered each others names, cars we drive, vacation plans, and current romantic updates. He was the kind of person you were happy to have talked to.
As is the custom in our home, a candle burned that evening for Dan.
"Chan eil saoi air nach laigh leòn."